features of autism

So -- if you ever noticed me -- which you probably didn't -- you might have noticed that I write novels with characters on the autism spectrum.  I got into this after my kids and I were diagnosed with autism spectrum disorders.  I concluded that everyone in my nuclear and my ex's extended families had autistic features.

I've been on Quora a lot recently answering questions about autism.  I was looking at my answers there and liked this one, so I thought I'd copy it here.  The question was about what a person with Aspergers is like.

You're going to find a lot of diversity amongst us. We're not all the same.

Some clues as to differences you might notice, though:

• Flat affect (few facial expressions)
• Poor prosody (melody of speech)
• Hyper and hypo sensitivities to sensory simulation (noises, tastes, textures, colors, lights)
• Lack of eye contact
• Trivia obsessions
• Digestive problems
• Sleep issues
• Difficulty with transitions
• Preferences for routine or ritual
• Self stimming
• Melt downs
• Talking too much or too little
• Doesn't understand why you're offended

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On letting kids be kids

This is a response that I wrote on quora, but I wanted to reproduce it here, because I think it is very important

I personally attribute my work ethic to having started working at a very young age. Is it unethical to have your children begin working lightly such as mowing lawns, painting fences, etc. before they are legally allowed to (i.e. under 14)?

Annalisse Mayer, Author Specializing in Autism Themed Novels at Novels (2001-present)

Answered just now

It is hard to answer as to what is legal without knowing where you are. This is going to vary from jurisdiction to jurisdiction.

In the USA, the rule of thumb is that kids can be made to do chores at home and can work in family run businesses.

As to what they can do beyond that, it can get complex. Please be sure that — if your kid is working for money outside the home — you are not taking the money. That is a crime.

I think I have pretty good work ethic. My parents felt that — before I graduated from high school — my job was school. They wanted me to focus on that. They didn’t want me distracted with other jobs. I ended up with excellent grades and getting into a top college.

I think this actually is very good work ethic: to try to focus on quality in your primary job and not over-extend yourself. Multi-tasking makes you mediocre at everything.

There is a lot of ongoing research into what helps kids develop into highly functioning adults — and on what activities improve brain health. Here is a hint of what is going on:

• Kids do need to play and socialize more than adults, in order to develop neurologically and intellectually. Scientists Say Child's Play Helps Build A Better Brain
• Study of the arts is actually critical to development of intelligence and creativity for instance Creativity in Early Brain Development
• Exercise is important at all ages for healthy brain Regular exercise changes the brain to improve memory, thinking skills - Harvard Health Blog
• Silence is important to brain health as well Why Silence Is So Good For Your Brain

If you focus a child on adult-like tasks too early, you will stunt their development and reduce their long term potential. You may feel that this was good for you as a child, but was it really? Might you have been smarter, gotten into better schools, and achieved more as an adult, if you had been allowed to focus more of your energy on developmentally appropriate tasks, i.e. on being a kid?

This being said, my dad was on the graduate admissions committee for the physics department of our local state university. He found that kids who grew up on family farms were the best experimental physicists, because they knew how to do things. At home, they were expected to know how to build and repair equipment, for instance. But kids who grow up on farms, also get lots of aerobic exercise and play outdoors.

Meme re equal time for Democrats

This is copied from FB

For anyone inclined to add your voice on the matter, here's some info that I borrowed from another post.

#CallToAction

Joint @SpeakerPelosi/@SenSchumer Statement:

"Now that the television networks have decided to air the President’s address, which if his past statements are any indication will be full of malice and misinformation, Democrats must immediately be given equal airtime."

Numbers to call to so request:
CNN: (404) 827-1500
ABC: (800) 230-0229
NBC: (212) 664-4444
FOX: (888) 369-4762
CBS: (212) 975-3247
PBS: (703) 739-5000

FB messenger meme

 I got this FB messenger meme. Not sure if I agree with it. And why doesn't it mention the president's salary?

Please read 28th amendment

Please Read, and forward.   This will only take 1 minute to read!
 28th Amendment, 35 States and Counting.

It will take you less than a minute to read this. If you agree, please pass it on. It's an idea whose time has come to deal with this self-serving situation:

 OUR PRESENT SITUATION !

Children of Congress members do not have to pay back their college student loans.

Staffers of Congress family members are also exempt from having to pay back student loans.

Members of Congress can retire at full pay after only one term.

Members of Congress have exempted themselves from many of the laws they have passed, under which ordinary citizens must live.
 For example, they are exempt from any fear of prosecution for sexual harassment.

And as the latest example, they have exempted themselves from Healthcare Reform, in all of its aspects.

We must not tolerate an elite class of such people, elected as public servants and then putting themselves above the law.

I truly don't care if they are Democrat, Republican, Independent, or whatever. The self-serving must stop.

Governors of 35 states have filed suit against the Federal Government for imposing unlawful burdens upon their states.It only takes 38 (of the 50) States to convene a Constitutional Convention.

If each person that receives this will forward it on to 20 people, in three days most people in The United States of America will have the message.

Proposed 28th Amendment to the United States Constitution:

"Congress shall make no law that applies to the citizens of the United States that does not apply equally to the Senators and/or Representatives; and, Congress shall make no law that applies to the Senators and/or Representatives that does not apply equally to the Citizens of the United States ..."

This is an idea that should be passed around, regardless of political party.

Congressional Reform Act of 2017

1. No Tenure / No Pension. A Congressman/woman collects a salary while in office and receives no pay when they're out of office. And, no more perks go with them.

2. Congress (past, present, & future) participates in Social Security. All funds in the Congressional retirement fund move to the Social Security system immediately. All future funds flow into the Social Security system, and Congress participates with the American people. It may not be used for any other purpose.

3. Congress must purchase their own retirement plan, just as ALL Americans do.

4. Congress will no longer vote themselves a pay raise. Congressional pay will rise by the lower of CPI or 3%.

5. Congress loses their current health care system and participates in the same health care system as the American people.

6. Congress must equally abide by all laws they impose on the American people (i.e. NO MORE INSIDER TRADING!!!).

7. All contracts with past and present Congressmen/women are void. The American people did not make this contract with Congressmen/women. Congress made all these contracts by and for themselves.

Serving in Congress is an honor and privledge NOT a career. The Founding Fathers envisioned citizen legislators should serve their term(s), then go home and go back to work … not get all kinds of freebies.

Just hold your finger down then hit forward and send it to everyone you know.  Let’s help get the country straightened out.

Suspected side effects of CBD oil

I took CBD oil in July of 2018 for neuropathy caused by an anticancer medication

The first thing I noticed was that my thumb started triggering again. I had that treated with a cortisone injection two months earlier, which had worked. Then the triggering stopped again after I stopped taking the CBD oil

The second thing I noticed was some strange little bumps on the soft skin right where my inner thighs join my crotch. Again, these bumps, not itchy btw, but sort of hard, disappeared when I stopped the CBD oil

I'm not sure if the CBD helped with the neuropathy, because I also reduced the dose of my cancer med at that point, which also reduced the neuropathy. And I restarted my B12, which my neurologist recommends for neuropathy

My neuropathy wasn't super painful, more tingly

Fortunately, my oncologist put me on a new cancer med that doesn't cause neuropathy

I still have some residual neuropathy from my chemo in 2014, and from some spinal stenosis, but it's minor compared to what I was experiencing this summer on the prior cancer drug

So I don't 100% know that these side effects (thumb triggering and skin bumps) were caused by the CBD, but I strongly suspect so

Also, I spoke with a guy who sells CBD and he told me I was taking too much, so I took less

The high concentration stuff is pricey. Fortunately, I found one that was only flavored with peppermint oil. Some of them have sweeteners and fruit flavorings. The stuff doesn't taste that bad tho

There's another type of cannabis derivative called terpenes. This guy who sold the stuff said the terpenes were important. The stuff I bought didn't have them, though. That might have been part of the issue. But, fortunately, the neuropathy got better from stopping that one drug anyway.

Also, I visited a new yoga class that gave me some ideas for postures that would help, which has alleviated some of the spinal stenosis issues

Advice to young female college student

1. Never be alone in a dorm room or other bedroom with a man unless you're planning you have sex with him
2. Go to your professor or teaching assistant if you don't understand the class material. Don't be embarrassed. It's better to ask a stupid question than to do a stupid thing. It's a lot easier to understand topics explained one on one, than in a classroom or textbook. Don't be afraid to come in frequently. Demand to understand.
3. If you find yourself falling asleep in class, demand that the carbon dioxide levels in the classroom be checked.
4. You are no better and no worse than anyone else. You are not terminally unique. Just because a topic scared you in k-12 doesn't mean you won't be able to do it now.
5. People who pressure you to: drink, use drugs, have sex, drive dangerously, or do any other risky behaviour are not your friends. Find other friends.
6. It's usually better to get assignments in on time, even if they're not perfect, rather than turn them in late. It's certainly better to turn in an imperfect assignment than none at all. If you need an extension communicate with your professor promptly. Get help early. Don't wait until the last minute.
7. If you have writer's block, try speaking your essay into your computer or phone and then type or use voice recognition to convert to text.
8. If you feel very unhappy, look for the counseling services in your college. If you get a counselor, as I did, who seems really off base and not addressing your issues. Tell them they're off base. Request another counselor.
9. Learn about oxytocin and its effect on the body. Try not to get biochemically bonded to a man who doesn't love you. You won't get over it. It's permanent.
10. Learn about contraception.
11. If your roommate is really making you insane, they can usually find someplace else for you.
12. If you have a lot of AP credits, as I did, make sure you understand master's degree options at your college. You may be able to get both a bachelor's and a master's for the price of a bachelor's.
13. Think about the secret thing or things that you most like to do that you haven't ever told anyone about. Think about whether those could be related to a career. Ask a career counselor. It's better to be in something you love, even if it pays less
14. Get enough sleep, even if it means taking naps.
15. Eat three square meals a day.
16. Sugar is an addictive drug. It's not your friend.
17. Sororities can be a great source of lifelong friendships, but be sure to choose one that builds your moral character.
18. Look for the eyes that love you. Spending too much time listening to your critics will get you down. If someone criticizes you, say "Thank you. I'll think about what you said." You can be polite. You don't have to do what they want. You don't have to allow their criticism to affect your self esteem.
19. Authority figures are not your parents. They're fellow adults. Try not to project issues from your family of origin onto strangers.
20. I found that the lies I told myself were the worst ones, especially unrealistic expectations of myself.
21. Get enough exercise. That's usually not a problem, but if there's a shuttle on campus, you might consider walking instead if you have time.
22. Fasten your seat belt
23. Don't get into a car with a young, inexperienced driver and other young people. Inexperienced drivers cannot deal with the distraction of unrelated passengers. An accident is almost guaranteed if there's more than one.

Originally written in answer to a question on Quora 

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Meme about immigration

 This is copied from a friend's FB post

“Trump’s obsession with wall-building and zero-tolerance has led Americans to this grim political spectacle. His personal cruelty and political ignorance have created a crisis that will kill conservative immigration reform and lead to future Democratic majorities. More troubling is the harsh reality now staring Americans in the face: Their president is a brutish political boss who has cheapened conservatism, sullied the office of the presidency and called into question the very character of a country once seen as the envy of the world. That so many Republicans still support this depraved man and his malignant movement could be the most damning element of this tragic American tale.”   — Joe Scarborough, a former Republican congressman from Florida, now hosts the MSNBC show “Morning Joe."