Annalisse Mayer mouths off
My 7 novels: "The Story of S___;" "When Alice Met Her Favorite Movie Star in an Elevator," "The Pop Star and the Child Prodigy," and "Elves in Detroit" Books 1-4. This blog has essays and poetry. My twitter: @AnnalisseMayer; Goodreads: https://lnkd.in/dfiqRxG; Linkedin: http://tinyurl.com/pz9x93u NB: Annalisse Mayer is a pseudonym
Monday, July 7, 2025
A mathematical definition of God
Saturday, July 5, 2025
comments about non-theism in program
Some comments I wrote about a draft pamphlet about non-theist recovery in SLAA
First I referred to my non-theist affirmations
https://annalisse-mayer.blogspot.com/2023/09/proposed-secular-affirmations-for-non.html
Then I sent these remarks:
SLAA was not my first program. OA was.
After joining OA, I had some dramatic emotional mystical experiences. I had dim visions, not exactly like hallucinations, but transformative images in my mind, which I felt came from HP.
I also had peculiar sensations in my brain. I don’t know if you’ve ever had the experience of a limb falling asleep. Then when sensation comes back, for me, it often feels like fluid flowing into the limb. I had a sensation like that in my brain. A feeling of fluid flowing — circulation returning.
Something like this happened to Bill W, the founder of AA. He saw a flash of light. He felt wind blowing on his face.
I have been interested in the research on ketamine, which induces hallucinations — something a bit like the mystical experiences I had after joining OA.
I have been abstinent in OA for 20 years. I absolutely believe that these mystical experiences I had changed my brain, neurologically, and allowed me to become & stay abstinent.
There has been some research on what happens in the brain during ketamine hallucinations — also what happens in the brain during prayer and meditation.
Ketamine researchers seem to feel that the drug actually somehow erases patterns in the brain and rearranges things into new patterns. https://360info.org/ketamine-helps-change-thinking-patterns-in-people-with-treatment-resistant-depression/
Dr Jung in the AA Big Book p. 27
“Here and there, once in a while, alcoholics have had what are called vital spiritual experiences.
To me these occurrences are phenomena. They appear to be in the nature of huge emotional displacements and rearrangements. Ideas, emotions, and attitudes which were once the guiding forces of the lives of these men are suddenly cast to one side, and a completely new set of conceptions and motives begin to dominate them.”
This is very much the way researchers describe the effect of ketamine on the brain.
I have not had such dramatic experiences in SLAA as I had in OA, so my recovery hasn’t been as good, I feel. Also, my OA program was directed to stopping something — compulsive Overeating—while my SLAA program, directed at sexual & emotional anorexia, is more oriented towards starting something. But also I have huge step 2 problems in SLAA. I wonder if my desire for a relationship is selfish, whether it’s wrong to pray for it. I wonder if HP maybe doesn’t want me to have a relationship. Maybe I should surrender to that.
Here is a blog I wrote, under a different pseudonym, in 2012 about some of the research I was reading about then and how it related to my recovery. https://annalisse-mayer.blogspot.com/2012/07/musings-on-neurology-of-12-step.html
In any case, tho, with respect to the spiritual experiences I have had, I have no idea whether they come from an external God, or whether they are just an interesting neurological phenomena. I have read that atheists do tend to have different neurology from religionists, so they possibly cannot have mystical experiences.
Yet, I feel that an explanation of program that does not mention this type of experience is not giving the whole picture. I have spoken with several people in program who, like me, traced their recoveries to mystical experiences.
Monday, May 19, 2025
moving technical notes from post about cindy
The only problem with this image is that the angels look too serious, but when I put in the word "smiling" I got angels that looked like children, which I didn't like so much, either. Bing image creator can be very frustrating.
I did this with Gimp, which was also frustrating. I could not put the whole text into a text box, so I did the following;
1) found a free celtic font online
2) imported the font into my mac fontbook app
3) created a word document with the prayer in that font with a cream color background
4) exported the text into pdf
5) converted the pdf text into the best quality jpg with 600 dots per inche
6) imported the jpg image into a separate Gimp file (because it didn't work inside the other file. I kept getting blurry letters)
7) added an alpha channel to the layer
8) deleted all pixels that weren't orange
9) exported a png file with transparency
10) pasted the png file into the file with the picture
11) shrank the text
12) created a cream color background layer behind the letters
13) cut out the gibberish in the picture
14) put the picture in the top layer
Wednesday, March 26, 2025
Memorial prayer for my cousin, Cindy, who passed last night
3/26/25
She was very different from me politically and religiously, but I liked her anyway
Cindy
May you get the salvation that you worked so hard for in life
Believing things I do not believe
But believing them sincerely
I hope you get what you worked for
May you find your lost family members in the afterlife
May we all find each other there
Even though I do not believe it is so
I can still pray it is so.
May choruses of smiling angels serenade you to your eternal home
May you lie upon velvet cushions with shining, gold braids
May you eat the sweetest of fruits
May you sprout beautiful, huge, iridescent wings and fly through gentle, puffy clouds.
May you learn to play ethereal music on the harp
May handsome centaurs bow to you and tell you words of great wisdom
May adorable little birds sing you sweet songs
And bring you garlands of flowers in their beaks
May those flowers never fade, but instead stay fresh forever all about you
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Addendum: May 15, 2025
I don’t know why I keep thinking about Cindy . I didn’t know her very well. I only saw her occasionally at family events – and sometimes on Facebook. She was the wife of my blood cousin. They were the cousins I was most in conflict with. The husband teased me as a child. they were fairly far away. Their religion and politics were different from mine. He unfriended me on Facebook, but she didn't.
Yesterday, I was imagining myself speaking at her funeral. There was a funeral near her home shortly after her death. There will be a second one in our vacation community. The speech went as follows:
I first met Cindy, as I recall, at her wedding to my cousin – a pretty, young, happy bride. I didn’t see her very often… A few family events… Posts on Facebook.
I remember the wedding, in a church. My cousin, who is an evangelical Christian, had his arms raised over his head, praising God, which is something other people in our family generally didn’t do. I was sitting in the audience, in pews, with other members of our family. Maybe that was the wedding where we had to be in the back, because my autistic son couldn't tolerate organ music -- tho we put hearing protectors on him that time, I think, so he was able to stay.
It never occurred to me that someday a lifetime would’ve passed, that she would’ve had children, grandchildren – possibly great-grandchildren? And, I think, a career – possibly in education? And, then, seemingly in a flash, I would be sitting in another church, in pews with my family, and it would be her funeral.
The wedding doesn’t seem so very long ago. It doesn’t seem so very long ago that she was that young, happy, pretty bride — sort of perky, with a lot of spirit.
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This wasn’t part of the fantasy speech, but I’m thinking it:
Her mother didn’t look very well at the time. Cindy hadn’t been looking well recently. I never mentioned it. I remember her face changed. My father’s face changed when he had cancer. We didn’t realize until later that the changing in his face reflected the cancer inside his body, before it was diagnosed. It never occurred to me that the change in Cindy‘s face meant that she might have undiagnosed cancer.
She wasn’t that old. I think she may have been over seventy, but just barely. Perhaps I should’ve warned her.
Is that it? Do I feel guilty? Is that why I keep thinking about her?
I asked Bing image creator to create images of angels with harps and a rainbow.
I tried putting the whole poem into Bing image creator. Then I got images with good looking gibberish similar to my prayer. So I took one of those images, deleted the gibberish, and put in my prayer.
Wednesday, February 12, 2025
Use of mnemonic acronyms in Overeaters Anonymous
- B— binge
- I — I’m
- N — not
- G —good
- E —enough
The idea is that negative self talk is a character defect that can result in overeating.
There are several problems with this image:
- Mnemonic acronyms can’t be readily translated into other languages
- OA World Service [aka WSO] doesn’t want us to use acronyms in general.
- Images don’t translate automatically on the VR website, so we prefer text.
Still, I find that this sort of acronym is very useful for people.
I have been in text meetings online, where they used acronyms, such as COE for compulsive overeater. That other type of acronym is very useful for saving time, but confusing for newcomers. In fact, that meeting had a whole glossary of acronyms that attenders were supposed to learn in order to attend the meeting. I can understand why World Service felt that these acronyms were confusing for people, and therefore should be avoided.
Nevertheless, I find that mnemonic acronyms, as in the graphic above, can be very useful. My first sponsor loved acronyms and slogans. Many slogans also have puns or wordplay in them that don’t translate well.
Even though World Service doesn’t like acronyms, I feel that it would be nice to make some use of mnemonic acronyms. It might be fun to challenge the international community to see if they could come up with something similar in their own language.
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Working on some more images
Tuesday, February 11, 2025
Gloomy thoughts about Trump destroying our institutions
This started out as a brief dream as I was falling asleep
Closing down a building
It’s been regularly closed every day for years, at least on weekdays
The closing is no different this time
Except it won’t be opened again
The locks that are now freshly oiled, will corrode and may not be able to be opened again
The shades over the windows will deteriorate in the sun
The roof, freshly patched, will develop holes
The papers out on the desks, now all current, will gradually become antiques
The people leaving today do not know for sure that this will happen
they hope they will return in a few days
but they do not know
A man touches a doorknob as he leaves
Thinking he will never touch it again
It’s a working doorknob now
But likely the next time someone comes through
it will be too old to use
or the door may have fallen off its hinges
The corridors, up until now filled with busy people, working
Will now be empty
There may be mice and spiders, at least for a while
There is still food in some of the desks
And in the refrigerators on each floor
People don’t have time to get it out
The people hope they will be back in a few days to eat it
But they won’t and the mice will eat what is left
A feral cat lurks in the shadows behind the building
He will get to eat some of the mice
He won’t be there long, though.
He’s been raiding the garbage and there won’t be fresh garbage
The displaced people go back to homes that they can no longer afford to pay rent on
The homes will be abandoned too
As the city turns into a ghost town
There is no future